Friday, December 10, 2010


Life can feel like a puzzle.
Sometimes you’re the center piece.
Sometimes you’re the corner piece.
No matter what, you are essential.
The center is the main part.
The corner is the support.







Life needs you at all times.
Even if it’s a puzzle, don’t be missing.





Sunday, December 5, 2010

A good manager influences with power and grace and leads by example.


If your actions inspire others to dream more, learn more, do more and become more, you are a leader.
- John Quincy Adams
My management style has always been reflective in the successes of the teams that I have developed throughout my career.
As a manager, I have hired many people and created many teams. One of the most important lessons, I have imparted to them is one of trust. I always would earn their trust and ensure they would earn mine.
Trust in each other is essential in achieving goals. This trust goes even deeper when as a leader; you must guide your team on their own path to success.
 ~Ralph Waldo Emerson said:
Do not follow where the path may lead. Go instead where there is no path and leave a trail.

I found myself in this situation when I came here to pursue this education. My team was a priority for me. One lady came to me very nervous, needy, and quite a people pleaser. This was great for sales, not great for life. She was lovely and still is. The difference is now, she is empowered with self confidence and accountability for her actions. She no longer has low self esteem. She is successful and is in management. Another member is also in management. She has followed her heart and with encouragement she is striving in her endeavors. The others have reported successes and happiness. It helps me to know that they are in good places and are managing on their own.
Teamwork needs to be encouraged in and outside of our business life.
I would like to share an important story with you about teamwork that comes from nature. I heard it years ago and it stayed with me and I hope it will stay with you as well.

Lessons from the Geese
This fall, when you see Geese heading south for the winter, flying along in “V” formation, you might consider what science has discovered as to why they fly that way. As each bird flaps its wings, it creates uplift for the bird immediately following. By flying in “V” formation the whole flock adds at least 71% greater flying range than if each bird flew on its own.
When a goose falls out of formation, it suddenly feels the drag and resistance of trying to go it alone and quickly gets back into formation to take advantage of the lifting power of the bird in front.
When the Head Goose gets tired, it rotates back in the wing and another goose flies point.
Geese honk from behind to encourage those up front to keep up their speed.
Finally, and this is important, when a goose gets sick, or is wounded by gunshots and falls out of formation, two other geese fall out with that goose and follow it down to lend help and protection. They stay with the fallen goose until it is able to fly, or until it dies. Only then do they launch out on their own, or with another formation to catch up with their group.
By Dr. Robert McNeish, 1972

From this story we should derive that if we had as much sense as the geese, we would go with those headed in the same direction as we want to go.
As a team we need to respect each other. We need to manage difficult tasks. We need to work within each others’ talents and skills.
We will stand by each other, in good times and in difficult times. When the team is strong we need to encourage each other and support one another even more when we need each other.
Empowering a team gives them a sense of accountability, pride and confidence. Think back to when your mom or dad finally trusted you with the mixer or the power tool. Remember, when they said” Now go ahead, you can do it”. They may not have come right out and said the words that they believe in you…but they did. From then on, you had a little more confidence…I did.
Individual empowerment results from quality encouragement. The honking we do must be of quality, and supportive. It is reflective on the leader.

A leader leads by example, whether he intends to or not. 
- John Quincy Adams








Tuesday, November 16, 2010

Is Barbie too skinny to be a role model?



Is Barbie too skinny to be a role model? This is a captivating question, one that leaves most of us remembering a rainy day when we were little girls playing with Barbie dolls. Were you sizing her up? Most little girls spent long hours brushing her hair.
Barbie was launched in 1959 and sold for just three dollars. She wore, the now famous, black and white striped bathing suit with her hair up in a ponytail. At the time, over 350 000 units were sold and to date the best selling one was the Totally Hair Barbie. This information is found on Barbie .com
Barbie was named after the inventor’s daughter, Barbara. She has an entire history which includes the following: she came from Willows, Wisconsin, she attended Willows High School and graduated college in 1964. Her full name is Barbara Millicent Roberts. In 1961, Ken made his debut as her boyfriend. She has five sisters, 43 pets and many vehicles.
The main facts about this icon are ones that everyone should know. If Barbie was human sized, she would be five foot nine inches. Her measurements would be an unbelievable 36-18-33. In reality, Barbie is always eleven and a half inches tall.
Barbie’s signature color is pink. She has more than a billion pair of shoes. She also has more than a hundred new additions to her wardrobe each year. The excessive amount of accessories and fashion available reflects a lifestyle that is unattainable.
When little girls play with Barbie, they usually become what the imagination wants them to be. When I was little, my Barbie collection was meant to play with, not to look at. My friends and I would have the Barbie dolls become whatever we wanted them to. We never talked about her size or her breasts. We just dressed her, played with her, and redressed her.  We were led by our imagination; the size of Barbie’s waistline had nothing to do with our play time. Impressed by her hair, we brushed it, and wanted ours long or short, depending on how she wore hers. Her fashions also made us long for mini-skirts, bell bottoms, cruise wear, and ball gowns. Her wedding dress was the fantasy you dreamed of, if you were so lucky.
In today’s society, however, “Barbie" or "Barbie Girl” has become somewhat of a derogatory slang referring to a stupid woman. One of the biggest issues about Barbie is whether she is too skinny to be a good role model. Is it because of the reality of parents' inability to communicate with their children? Young people's decisions regarding self esteem should be based on informed knowledge, not warped ideas made by antiquated toy companies.
Barbie’s message is all about empowering women, and yet she remains controversial in her size and fashion accessories. Her lifestyle is unsustainable. It can be a joy, if left where it belongs, in a young girl’s imagination. A great parenting skill is to know you can’t give your child everything, so you need to give them something in fantasy or imagination. A sort of “what if " scenario is appropriate to get to know your children’s needs, and then give them what they want. Imagination, playing dress up, letting them play with Barbie dolls and having a fulfilled childhood is a gift you shouldn’t take away from your kids. A good parent sits and plays with them. Teach your kids about good play and what Barbie is about. Knowledge is Power. Empowering young women is the ultimate gift!

Wednesday, November 10, 2010

Who am I

I am from my sisters, from love and encouragement.
I am from the hearts of a family with every day challenges.
I am from the Azalea flower and the young Willow tree,
who stands alone and bends for all and finds others in it's maturity.
I am from warm applecrisp and French songs from Gabe and Lucille and
from Lagimodiere and Lavigne.
I am from Catholicism with all it's fear and guilt, to a loving God filled
with respect.
I'm from St. Boniface and French Canadian, Sucre a Creme and
Tourtiere.
From the knee of a great uncle, telling stories of the depression, while
a great aunt bakes warm cookies, and the nattering of a sister that she knows
I can do it if I set my mind to it.
I am from gathered photos in storage bins sugared with dust, trinkets of importance
bought of love, and time that passes too fast to spend with those who matter most.